How We Got Involved in Swinging - Part 4

Lin's attitude changed toward me being with other women after that night. We decided to expand our horizons a bit, to possibly include couples rather than single men exclusively. Having that possibility a much more realistic thing, we discussed my getting a vasectomy to prevent any accidents (Lin had had a tubal ligation before we were married, so we were already safe there.) After a couple of months of discussion, I had one. It was while I was healing up from that little adventure (get one guys - it's one week out of your life - no biggie) that I met a guy online who would later become, along with is wife, our closest friends in the lifestyle (I'll call them Max & Annie for purposes of discussion.)

Max & Annie have been in the lifestyle for longer than we have, especially as a full-swap couple. Our full swapping experience prior to meeting them was that one time with Fred & Ethel. I was chatting with Max online, and he invited us to a house party in their home. We had never been to a house party before, so I told him that I'd get back to him about it after I talked with Lin. We discussed it, and decided to give it a try. I'm here to tell you now that we've been hooked on house parties ever since, and host them in our home on occasion.

We became regulars at Max & Annie's parties, and in fact sort of commandeered one of their bedrooms as our own, keeping some robes in the closet, and basic toiletries in the bathroom. The 4 of us became fast friends, and it became a ritual for us to go out to breakfast the morning after a party, with us usually getting home well into the afternoon. Work, however, forced them to move out of state, and we haven't seen them in about 2 years. We still IM and e-mail, however, and plan on getting together again soon.

Since that first party in late 2001, things have basically stabilized. We're still living in the same area, we still swing, we still have single male playmates over (including Tim,) and we still love each other just as dearly as when we said, "I do."

So, that's the whole story about how we got involved in this lifestyle from the beginning, until today. We have a "circle of friends" that consists of about 10 couples and 3 or 4 single men, and we get together as the various moods strike us all. We try to have a party at least every 3 months, and we all really have a good time. We still meet new couples and single men on occasion, but we're not actively looking to expand our "circle of friends" at this time.