I'm an underwear freak.

Interesting. It's rare to see a guy break out of his shell when it come sto underwear. Most don't realize there is a choice beyond boxers or briefs.

MrkLin,

A great blog and I agree with you 100%. I really wish that SLS had a "Bi-Selective" option for my wife. We are primarily a full swap couple where some bi-fem play is an occasional icing on the cake.

I think a lot of it has to be because of the guys. They want the FMF, that is their goal, and screw anyone else in the process. Including their wife.

S

Very often, I have come to wonder what it would be like to find someone on which you know in this kind of lifestyle and i suppose depending on who it is, would really be something to think about...

But on finding one's boss, that really must be something, i mean how do you go to work and not have the thought of the whole subject pop in mind, and ignore it through the day...
Honestly for me it would have just be nothing less of weird if i was to find one of my past bosses in the lifestyle, Although there has been two or so bosses that i would love to find in this lifestyle, as would many i bet...

But regardless lol that's a interesting find...

That sounds like the best Christmas present you could ask for! So glad to hear that he will be ok.

That sounds like the best Christmas present you could ask for! So glad to hear that he will be ok.

That's GREAT news!

T.

This is indeed good news for Christmas or any time. I'm glad you shared it. I offer my own new year's wish for good health to you, yours and all.

~Michael

While I don't know what toxoplasmia is, just about anything would be better than any form of cancer.

Knowing there is no cancer will let you enjoy the new year that much more!

Mr.

Thanks for your response. We are talking more each day to get over this hump. Meanwhile we took a break from our girlfriend for a little while.

I think you have a keeper

We have a friend who would certainly share your feeling that it seems like more work each time. She hosts a Yahoo group which is used for trips, outdoor adventures and group dinners. She does her best to encourage other people to plan events but somehow ends up doing them all. The event at the beginning of December was much as you described. Half hour after the appointed time, she and her husband are wonderering what had happended to everybody (JoAnn and I were late too). As in your story, people were arriving about the time that others were ordering desert. In this life, I believe there are organizers and there are participants.

I realize I'm about 10 months behind on this, but great entry! I just e-mailed the link to my better half, as we're hoping to get past our cold feet next month.

Definitely gives a good idea as to what can / might / does go on for first timers.

Mr.

The primary rule in swinging is that "no" simply means no! - and that includes any no's from our spouse. You should feel completely comfortable calling a halt to the play and taking a break until both of you decide to go forward with this again.

You've tried a few things and had some fun, but some things were less than desirable. Figure a way to fix that.

If you're uncomfortable with his flirting, let him know and expect his behavior to change. Meanwhile, ask yourself if you are comfortable with your reaction to their behavior.

Maybe try couple swapping to see if a change in swinging styles reduces the discomfort.

I think you already knew the answer would involve plenty of communication.

Good luck!!!

My man was flirting with this girl (B) and I found out about it. Now here's the thing, we have this girl (A) we got together with periodically, and I started feeling slighted because she was sending him text messages about how she miss fucking him, and before the other female he was flirting with came into his picture, I was totally cool with this girl (A) we were with. Now I want to draw back some, because I started feeling insecure because of this. What you all might say is comunicate comunicate comunicate, and I agree. I just want to know have any of you had simular or same situations. If so please share...thanks